Sacred Relationship Basics
Written by Cawrythwren Kaleighen
So lets define Sacred Relationship. Why? It should be clear what this is right….Well not so much it would seem. Why then is it not understood? Basically because there are very few demonstrations of what Sacred relationship looks like in action, or even those who would teach how to develop this way of Life.
The Basic Ingredient: It begins with Awareness.
So much is said about awareness but in my years of teaching I’ve met very few people who actually stop to investigate this concept in any depth.
Awareness in Sacred Relationship is incredibly simple… awareness that you are actually IN a relationship at all.
A no brainer right?…….you would be shocked at how many human beings are actually unaware that they are in a relationship with the world around them.
Once while teaching a class years ago, I asked a group of people to consider what they had eaten that day. And then I asked them to feel the relationship with what they had eaten, and how that was now supporting their ability to be alive… then to take that FEELING even further… into recognizing that they were actually an accumulation of everything that they had eaten up until that moment!
This is Awareness in Sacred relationship.
By virtue of being alive you are in relationship with Life.
Your awareness of this fact is your bloody responsibility!
- Each breath…..relationship with air
- Every drop of blood……relationship with water
- Every bite of food…..relationship with plants and/or animals
- The structure you live in…..relationship with everything needed to make your home i.e.. petroleum, minerals, forests, water, etc
Okay, now you have the 1st ingredient in your recipe for Sacred Relationship. Next ingredient…
R .E .S .P .E .C .T….. find out what it means to Life!
For some reason people these days think that respect has be be earned, when actually respect is a gift that we give to Life for no other reason than that we are ALIVE… unlike trust, which is something altogether different that is indeed earned… I am sure we will discuss that concept one day.
Everything in Life that you are in relationship with makes a contribution and that contribution deserves our respect.
Do you truly respect the contribution of the tomato that you ate on your salad for lunch?
How about respect for the bones of the animals that created the gas that you put in your car to go to work?
The thousands of human hands that touched the creation of the piece of toast you left uneaten on your plate?
If yes, but not all the time… well then… return to the 1st ingredient and spend some more time building awareness… I dare you.
If no, then… put on Aretha Franklin’s song R.E.S.P.E.C.T. and go back to step one…..and if you are unaware where your respect is, then please by all means follow everyone else who is going back to step one and rediscover AWARENESS….
Seriously, these concepts are essential to a Sacred Relationship.
Next ingredient: Honor and Reverance
Wow, these are two concepts that really have very little demonstration in our everyday lives anymore.
As a result, we tend think of these two concepts as ideas reserved for Sunday go ta meetin’, for those who have died, or Mothers Day. What about everyday? With every breath we take, every meal we eat, every interaction we have with nature, or each other?
It comes down to every time you choose! Does your choice include your honor and a reverence for how that choice effects Life?
Here is an example:
Lets say, you Love and Honor your mom… even if you don’t… this pertains to you too because you are alive and that demands some damn respect!
Does your honor expand into a reverence for her Life?
And do you have reverence for the body that her spirit resides in?
Furthermore, do you have reverence for the fact that she grew you from her form?
Is there reverence for the sacrifices that she made to keep you alive until you could feed yourself?
Rather, look at these questions in a new way. Don’t just read these words and say to yourself, “Yah Yah I get it already!” So I encourage you to take it deeper. I make you a promise here and now, that if you just stopped here for a moment and thought about the mother that birthed you from her body and FELT deep reverence for her LIFE….your Life will never really be the same!… so we will stop together right now and consider this marvel……..que background music…………………………………………………………………………wowzers! Mom you are awesome indeed!!! RESPECT!
So there you have it. Because this is the magic of the Sacred in Sacred Relationship. A lot more complicated that you thought eh?
Each one of these ingredients make the difference between having a relationship in your Life and being in Sacred Relationship With Life.