Sacred Relationship With The Beloved
written by Cawrythwren Kaleighen
A Relationship with the beloved includes any being other than self. Another expression of Life, that you are sharing Life with.
It is of utmost importance that you realize that the opportunities to be in a relationship with the beloved are seriously endless. Now, important distinction here, so pay attention! An inanimate object can NOT be the beloved. Sorry folks, you may really, really, REALLY be gaga about your… car, boat, mountain bike, house, gun, dirt bike, piano,…ect, but these things lack one monumental ability. THE ABILITY TO GIVE AND RECEIVE LIFE.
A Relationship Is The Giving and Receiving Of CONNECTION
- the beloved dog that you have in your Life for many years
- your child, grandchild, niece, nephew, stepchild, or any other loved one
- a partner that you walk Life with, or possibly has passed away
- the tree that you nurtured from a sapling, or maybe a tree you just met on a hike
- Tiny, the squirrel that shares your yard in the winter and who waits for you to bring out nuts every morning
- a hive of bees that you nurture and feed so it is strong, as a community they come to know your face
- any form of Life expressing itself
The Altar Of Life
We call this exchange of Life-force energy the Altar of Life. Since we as human beings can think and choose consciously we most often forget that this give and take is occurring constantly. Read more about it here. It is our awareness of this exchange which needs attention.
Why are we as Human Beings so determined to ignore what every other Life form knows and respects? That a relationship of Life is occurring and to be harmonious with that relationship. A person would not feed their beloved child poison on thier Cheerios in the morning. That would be not only criminal but heinous. So, why then does this same sane person who loves and cares for their beloved child not stop and choose differently when they pour Roundup on weeds in their yard, because they don’t Like Dandelions? The simple answer is that this sane person does not realize that this dandelion has a purpose and a destiny in Life. They believe that human supremacy and preference trumps any Life form other than their own.
Here is a story that even though you could say is insignificant in comparison to the horrors happening globally, is a perfect example of human belief in supremacy. Hence actions of dominace and disrespect.
It Starts One Tree At A Time
Papa why are you chopping this lovely tree down?
I had just returned from teaching a retreat with my beloved where we had spent two days immersing students in the mystery and wonder of Gaia. We were, as our students say, “blissed out”, exhausted and filled with feelings of deep connectedness to the natural world. Instinctually able to hear the trees breathing and swaying in communication with one another. And then… I sat down in my front yard to enjoy the late afternoon sunlight and these quiet feelings of peace.
I heard that comment come across the yard from the neighbors next door. The little boy, perhaps about 4 years old, was asking his Papa a very wise question. Standing next to his Papa who had a chainsaw and lopers in his hands like a lumberjack. Sizing up a little 4 year old Red Leaf Maple in his front yard. Almost offhandedly, he looks down at this son and says,“Because I don’t like it!” I closed my eyes for a moment and took a deep breath. “Really!” I said to myself. This is my welcome home from teaching the ways of connection and communication with Life and nature.
Witnessing the boy doggedly asking the question over and over, as 4 year olds often do, I thought about how this young man was speaking the question arising from Life.
His Papa’s response arose from a belief of supremacy and dominance. Therefore it is A OK for me to do what I want, because I want to. I don’t need to have a better reason!
I don’t need to write the rest of the story for all of you to know the outcome. Except to add this one last statement. Finally, the little boy ran over to the large, very old sycamore in the far corner of their yard, wrapped his arms around it and said,” Papa, don’t cut this tree down. IT IS MY FRIEND!” The response from the urban Paul Bunyan,” Ya, fine it can stay.” WOW, thanks dude, says I. Your largess is awesome to behold. With tears in my eyes, I sat as compassionate witness while a sister tree, who’s fall colors I had enjoyed a mere five months before, was unceremoniously snuffed from Life because someone felt they had the supreme right to end the destiny of another being… because,” I don’t like it!”
Approach Life Like Children
So to approach relationship with the beloved, let’s act like my young, heroic neighbor. Is this expression in front of me fulfilling a destiny and a purpose in Life?
While the large brother tree was the little hero’s “friend”, it too was relating to him as a friend.
Rather than supremacy, dominance, and a constant ” bad date” approach to our relationships with the beloved, let’s use awareness, respect, honor, and reverence.
Furthermore, practice a willingness in developing the ability to listen and a genuine humility, that you are in a relationship with other forms of Life. The beloved relationship fills the heart with expansion into awe and wonder. Therefore, go wrap your arms around the trees ( if you don’t know how read here for clear instructions) , snuggle up with your loved one, sit naked in a mountain stream…
Go discover Wonder and Awe
Reverence and Repect
Find the Beloved
As the Beloved
ps as a final note… those wise little ones are learning from you on how to behave. Because your demonstration will teach them either supremacy and dominance, or reverence and respect!
Watch what your doing people… someone small is always learning something by your demonstration. Make sure its what you want to teach!