A Sacred Relationship with the Self
Written By Cawrythwren Kaleighen
Yes indeed, there is such a thing as a Sacred Relationship with yourself.
It seems like such a mystery on how to get there and be genuine about it. How to synopsis this concept into a short clear message seems almost impossible. I can’t tell you how many long years of work it takes to get someone to even consider taking the leap.
Truth: You are in a relationship with self.
Why do we stop loving ourselves? It is effortless as a child. When asked, a child will say yes” I love me” like it’s the simplest thing in the world… a few short years later a teenager will look at you like you have worms crawling out of your ears… a young adult just looks down and shrugs… an adult will give a long, sad, far-away gaze and say, “Well yes, I love myself, but… (insert mean comment about self here), and once a person has reached adulthood the rocky path to Self Love becomes… quite a process… sigh!
The Stones Along The Path Are Many
Navigating the long and winding road (often blindly) that unfolds the journey of our lifetime can be joyous, frightening, thrilling, chilling, a comedy of errors, a tragedy of unforeseen circumstances, blissfully romantic, drenched in drama, filled with wonder, a decade or worse of teenage angst, and far too many other happenings than can be listed here… often all at the same time.
Truth: You were born innocent.
What a difficult Truth to accept for anyone over the age of 10. Innocence as it is defined is a “lack of guile or corruption”. Why do most humans believe that they are no longer innocent beings? Our cultural conditioning tells us that we are somehow lacking and the result of this is the loss of innocence. What a burden!
When we are born when come in with basic needs and understandings
- We want to give and receive Love
- We need nourishment
- We need human contact
- Having a space to learn
- Most of all, we need a safe environment
Until you know your own sacredness, no one else will either.
Falling in Love with the self and having a healthy view of your profound Sacredness in Life is a long road uphill. Because you haul all the baggage that you have decided is meaningful with you like precious cargo! Here is some of the necessities that over the years I have found in your backpacks.
- I have been abused, mentally, emotionally, physically… this defines me, by God, so that is needed of course.
- I had a horrendous childhood… very important! Must keep that close indeed, lest I forget.
- I am unworthy of Love! Must keep that as a reminder to never get above myself.
- I’m never good enough. Got to have that nugget so I will always strive to be a better person.
- Most of all, there is something really wrong with me! Don’t believe me? Ask the voices in my head. They will confirm this as gospel Truth!
I CALL BS! You are a beautiful Sacred Being!
Much as I would like to say that makes it so, it doesn’t. You and you alone must lay claim to your divine nature and fall deeply in Love with the magic and mystery of you.
While all of those treasured nuggets in your backpack that you cling to, burden you down and are very real indeed. They are your history or many times the present experiences unfortunately. They are also not all that you are!
A Master said to me once, “You are not the pain you are experiencing”
Since it took me many years to see the Truth in that nugget, I carry that one with me always! While I do my darnedest to share it with as many people as I can.
Because, let me tell ya people, that Truth alone meant I could offload all the other bullshit and let it rot by the roadside.
I was free!
Free to Love and see the Self as a friend instead of a curse.
So, how does someone go about believing that and making it their Truth? Honestly, go outside!
Be in the natural world! Wander in the magic and mystery of Life as a child would.
Return to your knowing deep within. That doesn’t mean btw that you “know it”. A deep knowing is a primal, instinctual wisdom of Truth. The natural world will bring this up in you much faster than anything else you could do or buy.
Most of all, don’t take your stuff with you.
Leave all the electronics at home. I swear you WILL be alive in the morning. Or hell, even 3-4 hours later.
Give yourself permission to explore and be still. Take a nap…yes on the ground! Stack rocks, build a twig fort for a bug. Why the heck not? They may not use it but you had fun and remembered something important about the self. I Love being alive in Life… so glad I remembered that.
TRUTH: I am here to contribute to Life and Loving the self is my contribution to Life today!